Not dealing with your divorce is like holding your breath under water and trying not to rise to the surface. You will rise no matter how hard you try. You are in the middle of a divorce and there are steps that you need to take.
I know it is daunting trying to unravel the like that you had, the present life and the future that you dreamed about with your spouse.
The attorney wants documents, there is co-parenting that needs to be done with someone that you are not on the same page with, and the feelings that come and go need to be dealt with.
Your friends and family all have there opinions on what you should be doing, and you feel like a ship with a lost ruter.
How do you start? How do you deal with daily life while having waves of emotions that seem to change with the wind?
I have been right where you are. When my former husband told me he was seeking a divorce, it felt like the air was knocked out of me and I could not catch my breath. Where do I even find a divorce attorney? What happens now? How do we tell the children?
Getting a divorce is not something you plan for or have on your life’s goal list. It is legal, yes, and it is also emotional and tearing apart 2 people who planned to grow old together.
You maybe dealing with betrayal, sadness, grief, exhaustion, and overwhelm. Getting p in the morning may take all you have for the rest of the day. And that is ok.
Take a breath and pause for a moment when life gets too much. It is not the impossible that you are facing, it just feels like it.
Having a divorce coach allows you a safe and confidential space to share those emotions, to have a sounding board and a thinking partner. Think of a divorce coach as the place that you can let it all out free from judgement and free from the fear of your spouse finding out.
As a divorce coach, I take confidentiality seriously. I want to give my clients the space to be able to be free to express what is going on and for them to know that I am listening and I care. An attorney is there to get you through the legal part of this journey, and a therapist is there to help you with the past and to see what might have gone wrong and to learn about you. I as a coach take that one step further, I help you get through the emotions and start to build a better life for you. One that you may have dreamed of, or one that you never thought possible.
If this is interesting to you, reach out and schedule a discovery call to see if we are a good fit.
